Un-Affectionate

sed953 · Post by **sed953** » Sat Jun 30, 2007 9:48 pm

I have a 2 year old cinammon, fixed, male chow. He is a great dog and very well behaved. He wants nothing more than to sit right outside the door, in the yard, and guard me (from what, I don't think even he knows

). My only complaint is that Chubby (yes, I named him Chubby

) is the opposite of affectionate. If I can get him in the house he plops down next to the door and waits to be put out, at least until he dozes off. He enjoys being petted but always moves away if I try to cuddle him. I'm pretty sure this is just in his nature, but I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to help him be more affectionate. Thanks!!

Layla · Post by **Layla** » Sat Jun 30, 2007 10:09 pm

You knew he was a chow yes?

WildThings · Post by **WildThings** » Sat Jun 30, 2007 10:50 pm

We consider Tess "cuddling" when she sits on the floor next to us, that is as much as she is going to give. Now, much to her displeasure, I'm always getting down on the floor with her, giving her hugs, squishing her puffy feet and muzzle. She puts up with it, but would rather guard the house. She gives us the most disgusted looks when we dote on her, which just makes me want to do it more. If we let her, she will sit on our back porch or in the driveway all day with no one messing with her. Chows are just aloof. I love her independence, and I have a collie that would sit on my lap all day and let me pet and hug her...would never get tired of it. I get my dog affection fix from her.

sed953 · Post by **sed953** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 9:02 am

Tess sounds just like Chubby! I also get down on the floor with him and hug/mess with him! Chubs too looks at me like I've lost my mind when I'm doing this to him. I guess guarding the house, alone, is truly their thing. He's my only pet so I don't have another affection outlet. Maybe I should get a cat

!

Post by **Auddymay** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 10:10 am

Yep, Lily is content to sit outside all day. The odd thing is, if I dare to leave without her, she goes all ape-sh1t and barks high-pitched, and then intentionally runs into a flower bed to get me to turn around (and scold her). Then when I return, be it from across the street or across town, it's all love and kisses, and cuddles, if I care to cuddle a wiggling jelly bean...but I better hurry, the entire meet and greet lasts all of a minute.

cheriekynb · Post by **cheriekynb** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 11:11 am

Sid loves to be cuddled. He's only a year though. I cuddle him.

I'll grab him and pull him close and hug him and stuff. He's my little (ok monster pig) cuddly bear.

TJordan · Post by **TJordan** » Mon Jul 02, 2007 7:05 pm

Butters will tolerate my cuddling but from noone else. He will go to his room most of the time or lay by the front door. He doesn't like to be outside alone, but if you are out with him he would just like you to sit and watch him, not interact with him. Just chows being chows.!!!

Post by **kingalls** » Mon Jul 02, 2007 8:04 pm

Chubby is doing what he does best - guarding you and making sure you are safe. He can't be bothered with snuggles and hugs - he has a duty to perform! This is how they show their love for you. Oh, how I wish my Mr. N would participate in the snuggly thing but that is not part of his agenda. I am happy to get purple kisses when I can but for the most part, he takes his "calling" seriously - to protect his family.

April · Post by **April** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 9:17 am

Oh yes, this is what chows do, they are just happy to be by your feet and protecting. My chowgirl Izzy is just 9 months old and she is a better cuddler now that she was a littler. She will now sometimes climb up on the couch with her front paws but will not get all the way up unless I pick her up and hold her in my lap, and when i let go there she goes right back on the floor at my feet making sure I am safe. But I know she loves me even if she doesn't want to cuddle up in my lap. My first Chow was the opposite he would just jump straight up in my lap looking for cuddling but when he was done, right back to the floor at my feet.. I sure miss him

chynagirlsmom · Post by **chynagirlsmom** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:56 am

My 4 year old chow Chynagirl is comes to me from time to time to be hugged. He is in competition with my cat. If she is on my lap Chyna will come and want to be hugged too!

Mandy · Post by **Mandy** » Mon Jul 09, 2007 11:46 pm

As everyone has said... it is definitely his nature! But let me tell you about my girl Cayenne. When she came into our home she was already 5 yrs old and pretty set in her way. She liked my husband but wanted NOTHING to do with me. Slowly as she let me pet her, walk her, groom her etc. I was able to find the spots she likes being scratched the most. After two years, she now will walk up to me when I'm sitting down and whine and paw at me until I give her her 5 minutes of good scratchies. She purs like a cat and if I stop before she is ready, she paws at me until I start scratching again. I know this isn't like a cuddly-in-your-lap thing, but for a chow, that's pretty good! So maybe you could start by spending a little extra attention on some good spots that need scratching!

sit_by_the_beach · Post by **sit_by_the_beach** » Mon Jul 16, 2007 2:55 am

My previous chow Luna was a free spirited wolf type chow. She was a real dog, no pampering, no cuddling. Chows aren't supposed to be a working dog breed. She was, she made sure the house, yard, street were safe from all preditors, human and animal. She was large, 65 pounds-no fat. She had a GS deep bark. But when she'd sit near me, she had the sweetest look in her face. I couldn't help but give her many hugs. I played loud music, made her dance with me. When I was done with my loving outbursts she escaped, ran down the stairs and would not come back up the rest of the evening.
I would get the treats out, call the cats and of course Luna would run back up the stairs too. Luna was very loving with my mom who was close to 80 at the time and very frail. Maybe it was my personality, my mom was the motherly type, I am not. I miss both.
When Luna died I had to have another furkid. Mikki chow is affectionate, gives lots of kisses, a real love bug. I like both types of chows, the aloof, arrogant type and the affectionate type of chow.

Karin

sit_by_the_beach · Post by **sit_by_the_beach** » Mon Jul 16, 2007 3:02 am

sed953 wrote:I have a 2 year old cinammon, fixed, male chow. He is a great dog and very well behaved. He wants nothing more than to sit right outside the door, in the yard, and guard me (from what, I don't think even he knows ). My only complaint is that Chubby (yes, I named him Chubby ) is the opposite of affectionate. If I can get him in the house he plops down next to the door and waits to be put out, at least until he dozes off. He enjoys being petted but always moves away if I try to cuddle him. I'm pretty sure this is just in his nature, but I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to help him be more affectionate. Thanks!!

If Chubby never sits near you, always by the door, I'd try the umbilical cord training. I did that with my previous chow Luna. Indoors, I'd put on a short leash and fasten the leash to my belt. She had no choice but to be with me while doing dishes, cooking, watching TV. I wanted a family pet and not a guard dog.
Eventually she stayed with me rather than guard the front door 24/7. Even years later, I had to call her upstairs once in a while, she'd go back to her old habits guarding the front and back door.
Karin

pfordeb · Post by **pfordeb** » Wed Jul 18, 2007 6:24 am

We sort of get the best of both worlds from our chowish dogs. Sullivan, our diva, tells us when she want us to pet her by nudging our elbow with her nose, but she never wants to be on our laps. And she spends most of her time lying by the front door. Outside she just sits. Gilbert fights for scratch time with Sullivan (they are pretty jealous of each other) but he's submissive and rolls on his back whenever Sullivan gives him a little "I'm the boss" growl.

I guess I solved the affection problem when I got our little chihuahua/beagle mix -- he's velcroed to us, though he is pretty good when we tell him to get down. And both Gilbert and Sullivan love him. Part of why we got him was Gilbert was only about 1 year when we got him and Sullivan refused to play with him (we think Gilbert is part lab and all the bounciness that goes with it). He and Charlie play all the time -- chase, tug of war, whatever. And Sullivan absolutely LOVES Charlie -- almost too much if you get my drift. All the dogs are fixed since we got them through rescues and shelters, but we knew Charlie was in when he tried "the nasty" with Sullivan the first night and she let him and every night when we come back from our walk Sullivan tries to have her way with Charlie. She may not be walking too great these days, but she chases after him, well, like a dog in heat.

So I guess if you want cuddly -- get a little dog. I think Pomeranians look a little like mini chows -- though I've also heard they can be snappy. Of course we all know how untrue those supposed temperments can be. But, on second thought -- just go to the pound. Those "puppies" are craving affection.

Lise Carreno · Post by **Lise Carreno** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 6:02 am

Hi,

I am new so bear with me. I found my chow puppy Mia, 12 weeks now, not super affectionate either.

But, I have found that if you mix hugging and petting sessions with treaties, the puppy/dog seems to equate that with fun and good eaties. (Since Mia is still a puppy, my only treats for her are her dry kibble, but it works!)

I think Mia is getting the picture that I am not giving up my huggies.

Smilla · Post by **Smilla** » Tue Aug 07, 2007 9:25 am

Hi,

I have a chow mix, so perhaps my answer doesn't quite count

I decided to give smilla some space. I did not go to her to pet her, but let her come to me. If she turned her head, seemed to dislike it, then I would stop and walk away.

Since I have started this 'new relationship' she turns to me more often and enjoys it. I am still working on it, but am finding it interesting...as many other things I learn from her

It was really hard to do - for me

pfordeb · Post by **pfordeb** » Tue Aug 07, 2007 11:54 am

Certainly neither of my chow mixes will ever be lap dogs (if we try to get them on our laps, then just jump off). Welcome to this site. It's full of great information and people.

Princess · Post by **Princess** » Tue Aug 07, 2007 9:55 pm

yup... no lap dogs here.... Gabbana lays far far away.. on the other side of the house by the door.. When i try to cuddle her by laying by her i normally get a paw in the face and a kick in the stomach hahahaha...

The ONLY time she became a lap dog was when we went camping this summer... She got so tired out that day that at night as we were sitting by the fire she just passes out and didn't move, I though something was wrong because i picked her up and put her on my lap and she kept sleeping.. I have a picture.. Ha found it, please disregard the unfortunate picture of me and my friend hahaha... But that's her dog dolce in a sweater.

And for all you southerners out there...yup.. it's the very end of may and it is snow in the background and we pretty much froze, Gabbana even slept under a bunch of blankets with me.

Olga

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