Needing some help.(non-chow)
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Needing some help.(non-chow)
Ok. I know y'all really don't wanna get caught up in my personal problems but I really need help.
My brother has always been violent towards me and I guess it was a little over a month and a half ago or maybe longer, that I decided to do something about it. At first I just wanted away from it but one of my friends parents told me running away from it wouldn't help. So she a cop and she got my schools resource officer involved. Then that ended up getting DEFACS(sp?) involved. And now, my mom seems like she's royally mad at me 'cause some lady came out and talked to her today. I just don't know what to do... I was sick of getting beat up and now that I did something about it things have just gotten worse... Anybody have any advice?
Jess
My brother has always been violent towards me and I guess it was a little over a month and a half ago or maybe longer, that I decided to do something about it. At first I just wanted away from it but one of my friends parents told me running away from it wouldn't help. So she a cop and she got my schools resource officer involved. Then that ended up getting DEFACS(sp?) involved. And now, my mom seems like she's royally mad at me 'cause some lady came out and talked to her today. I just don't know what to do... I was sick of getting beat up and now that I did something about it things have just gotten worse... Anybody have any advice?
Jess
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
How old is your brother and why didn't your parents put a stop to it?
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He's 15. I'm not sure why they didn't... I mean my mom told him to stop but that's about it.
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
Jess,
You are dong the best thing possible in getting help and talking about the problem. Try and sit down with your mom and dad and explain what has been going on, I know it will be hard but try and remain calm. Communication is hard but it can help. Tell your parents how you feel and that it seems they are mad at you. Keep talking with friends and school counselors, do not keep it inside. And for heaven sake do not run away it never helps. Continue being strong and working through this with your family and the people that are there to help you. We will keep you in our prayers.
Larry and Terrrina
You are dong the best thing possible in getting help and talking about the problem. Try and sit down with your mom and dad and explain what has been going on, I know it will be hard but try and remain calm. Communication is hard but it can help. Tell your parents how you feel and that it seems they are mad at you. Keep talking with friends and school counselors, do not keep it inside. And for heaven sake do not run away it never helps. Continue being strong and working through this with your family and the people that are there to help you. We will keep you in our prayers.
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Jess, your mom's not mad at you. She's mad at herself for not being able to stop it herself. It's difficult, but you have to not take it personally and don't allow yourself to take the frustration and stress of either parents inside yourself. And don't even think of reacting to the situations by running away. Although you're unfairly in the receiving end, no doubt it is your brother and mother (parents) who need to deal with their problem. You did what you were suppose to do to protect yourself. Don't you for a second compromise your future by reacting to their stresses! Are there any afterschool clubs or functions you can participate in? The less time you have exposed to your brother, the better and the more community of friend you form, the more positive you'll feel about your here and now. Also, if there are any martial arts classes you can join - even if it is a P.E. class, do so. That way you have an advantage on how to protect yourself from physical abuse.Tippsy'smom wrote:... And now, my mom seems like she's royally mad at me 'cause some lady came out and talked to her today. I just don't know what to do... I was sick of getting beat up and now that I did something about it things have just gotten worse...
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The reason I said my mom is mad at me is 'cause she actually sat there and yelled at me for telling anyone what was going on. I'm trying to talk to her about it but she just blows me off and says "don't talk to me about it." My friends are my security blanket so to speak. I can talk to them about anything and my friends Doug and Nick are teaching me karate. My mom wouldn't concider putting me in something like that. But yeah, a few of my friends have even said that I could stay with them but of course the majority of them being guys... that wouldn't work. Nick even said he'd take Tippsy too. lol.
And of course I have NO friends in my general area. They all live far away from me so the only way I could see them is by going places with them or hanging out with them at their houses, just to get away from my place. I'm in art club and chorus. We meet for 1 hour, 1 day, every month for art club. And chorus takes place during school except for our concerts so it's really not much time at all that I get away. Pretty much, locking myself away with Tippsy, is my only escape.
Jess
And of course I have NO friends in my general area. They all live far away from me so the only way I could see them is by going places with them or hanging out with them at their houses, just to get away from my place. I'm in art club and chorus. We meet for 1 hour, 1 day, every month for art club. And chorus takes place during school except for our concerts so it's really not much time at all that I get away. Pretty much, locking myself away with Tippsy, is my only escape.
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
Write your mom a letter. Be specific about the content. Don't bring up other issues that have been bothering you, such as curfew, or chores- stay on point. If you were both a few years older, what your brother is doing would be assault, punishable by the law. Your mom does not have to live in fear of getting a beating for no good reason, why should you have to? Your mom sees you as children, and children fight. As teens, she needs to except that you and your brother are both at the age to settle problems without resorting to physical interaction, and both of your parents need to step up to the plate to make sure this is the case. Allowing your brother to batter you only teaches him that it is okay to hit women...is this the type of man they want to raise?
Your mom is mad because she was put in a bad public light...let her be mad. But don't for a second take the blame for her predicament. If Family Services offer it, ask if you and your mom can do some group counseling. Your mom needs to realize there is a real problem, and a third party may be the only way to understand what her complacency is doing to your relationship. Good luck dear, and don't ever feel we don't want to hear your troubles. We want only the best for you!
Your mom is mad because she was put in a bad public light...let her be mad. But don't for a second take the blame for her predicament. If Family Services offer it, ask if you and your mom can do some group counseling. Your mom needs to realize there is a real problem, and a third party may be the only way to understand what her complacency is doing to your relationship. Good luck dear, and don't ever feel we don't want to hear your troubles. We want only the best for you!
Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
Jess,
everyone here has given you good advice.some people live in denial about problems because they can't deal with them.maybe thats the case with your Mom.you can talk to us any time someone is always here we are all thinking of you
everyone here has given you good advice.some people live in denial about problems because they can't deal with them.maybe thats the case with your Mom.you can talk to us any time someone is always here we are all thinking of you
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
Your family is not that unusual. I heard this happen many times before. Can you speak to your brother alone or to both your parents when your brother is not present?
You can try telling your brother that what he is doing can be reported to the police as assault and he can be punished. These days domestic violence in whatever form is looked upon more sternly. Talk to both your parents about his behaviour and ask them how they think this will effect his future relationships with your family or when he dates women. What if he marries, will he continue to be abusive?
Don't for one minute feel guilty or let your mom make you feel guilty. Your brother is the problem and your parents should deal with it. Continue to talk about it with your peers and conselors, it can only help.
You can try telling your brother that what he is doing can be reported to the police as assault and he can be punished. These days domestic violence in whatever form is looked upon more sternly. Talk to both your parents about his behaviour and ask them how they think this will effect his future relationships with your family or when he dates women. What if he marries, will he continue to be abusive?
Don't for one minute feel guilty or let your mom make you feel guilty. Your brother is the problem and your parents should deal with it. Continue to talk about it with your peers and conselors, it can only help.
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Thanks y'all. The reason I said y'all probably didn't wanna get envolved is 'cause it seems like there's always something bad happening to me... But I'm glad I can come here and talk about things with everyone here.
There's just so much...
And as soon as things seem to be looking up for me they always come crashing down around me.
Jess
Not really. My brother won't listen to a thing I have to say and I'd just rather not get into it with my dad... I can try to talk to my mom but usually I end up having to walk away to cool off. Matt is sweet as can be towards his girlfriend. It just seems to be me he turns on. And he knows he shouldn't hit me and that he could go to jouvie but that doesn't even change his attitude.Can you speak to your brother alone or to both your parents when your brother is not present?
There's just so much...
And as soon as things seem to be looking up for me they always come crashing down around me.
Jess
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
I don't know what you mean by beating you up all sister's and brothers fight but if its a violent type beating up your mom or dad better do something now, it may seem like no big deal to them and funny now but in the future it will change to girlfriend and wife abuse. Where is this violent part coming from and what is he seeing in your Mom and Dads relationship, your Dad should be talking to him not your Mom if he has such a low regard for the female gender it's Dad time depending on your Dad. If you have to hide and lock yourself away because your afraid in your own home thats abuse to the max and if no one is doing anything its best the school and who ever those others are got involved. Your a preaty bright kid so you don't want to wind up with mental problems from all this. Like I said i don't know what you mean by beating you up I may be reading more into it.
Opps, iI should have started this with What Y'all mean, sorry.
Opps, iI should have started this with What Y'all mean, sorry.
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Jeff, it is a violent beating up that I was talking about. He has left bruises all over my body. As a matter of fact I still have one from three weeks ago when he made my knee bend backwards. About the thing where my dad should talk to him... That wouldn't work. My dad would beat totally go off on him and probably beat him with a belt. My dad has anger issues. Same with my brother and me for that matter but I don't go around hitting people. I'll beat up a pillow or yell but that's it.
My mom and dad argue but not a lot. Mostly I think it may have something to do with our dad putting him down no matter what he does.
Jess
My mom and dad argue but not a lot. Mostly I think it may have something to do with our dad putting him down no matter what he does.
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
Your Dads Anger issues is where I was going with your brothers behavior, probabby best if the School does get involved.
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Yeah, except my brother has only been to school 3 days since we went back from Christmas Break.
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
Jess,
I have no better advice than everyone else has given - they really are right!
But, I did want to tell you that you are a very brave girl and I admire you so much for seeking help the way you did.
Don't you let anyone stop you for standing up for yourself in the smartest way!
You should never have to put up with any abuse. Keeps strong and keep telling until someone listens to you!
We are here for you - never hesitate to use your friends to confide in. Friends are a good support system.
You are amazingly mature and doing the right thing.
I have no better advice than everyone else has given - they really are right!
But, I did want to tell you that you are a very brave girl and I admire you so much for seeking help the way you did.
Don't you let anyone stop you for standing up for yourself in the smartest way!
You should never have to put up with any abuse. Keeps strong and keep telling until someone listens to you!
We are here for you - never hesitate to use your friends to confide in. Friends are a good support system.
You are amazingly mature and doing the right thing.
Mia
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Jess, you need to take photos of the bruises and log the date and then keep them in a safe hiding place. Also, thanks for answering my questions.Tippsy'smom wrote:..He has left bruises all over my body...
Again, your mom isn't mad at you. She's mad at herself and like Audrey said also mad that someone else outside of *family* now knows the darker side in her own household and she was confronted face to face by a third party. So she is not mad at you. However, I do think you have to give her a little space, the space when she say's "don't talk to me about it.". Your mom may need to sort things out her own way and can't or doesn't want to promise you anything she can't deliver at the moment.Tippsy'smom wrote:The reason I said my mom is mad at me is 'cause she actually sat there and yelled at me for telling anyone what was going on. I'm trying to talk to her about it but she just blows me off and says "don't talk to me about it."
Meanwhile, try to focus on your future, on your studies, and work on an activity that you are passionate about. You'll get a scholarship and off you go AWAY to college!
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A few of my friends have picture of the bruises. Because I realized that my mom was searching my room to see if I was hiding stuff from her.Jess, you need to take photos of the bruises and log the date and then keep them in a safe hiding place. Also, thanks for answering my questions.
You're welcome.
I really don't wanna study anymore... the whole jounior classin Georgia(well, the one's who weren't on Spring Break) just got done taking the Georgia High School Graduation Test. lol. Yeah, it was pretty much easy but dang 3 hours sitting in one spot everyday for a week... But atleast I do still enjoy all the artsy stuff. lol. But I'll be lucky to make it to being a senior next year.Meanwhile, try to focus on your future, on your studies, and work on an activity that you are passionate about. You'll get a scholarship and off you go AWAY to college!
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Jess, what your mom is would be SCARED. A visit from DCFS means someone could come in and take away her kids, the two she has loved since she first found out she was carrying inside of her. The babies she got up with all hours of the nights, has raised and tried to do what is best for them. Now, one call can take that all away. Her anger is her being scared to death of what could happen.
I had a hot headed brother. I couldn't tell you how many times I'd say something smart to him and he'd fly off the handle. Normally the fights would break out when dad wasn't home, one time he thought he'd beat me up with dad home, well dad pulled my brother off me and put the fear of God in him. I had smarted off to my brother thinking I was funny, he didnt find the humor in what I said! Mom would get so upset if she was home because she wouldn't know what to do. Everytime just about that my brother did this it was because I had purposely smarted off to him. I might have thought my smart remark was funny and he wouldn't. He use to be really bad towards my youngest sister. He seem to hate her. If I gave her permission to wear one of my shirts and he'd see her wearing it, he'd get in a fight with her demanding she leave my stuff alone. Instead of coming to me to ask me, he'd lay into her. I'd hear the yelling and her crying and go running to protect her because he'd be beating her up. The last one we had was bad. I had jumped in to protect my sister from him, he was beating the snot out of me. It was so bad he nearly knocked me out and would have had my older sister not jumped in to get him off of me. He'd start getting the best of her and I'd jump him to get him off of her, then she and my little sister would jump him to free me from him. So he ended up fighting 3 females that day, all while mom and dad were at work thinking all was well at home! The fight ended when I picked up the sweeper, called him a name, he looked at me and I gave it all I had with the intention of making sure that thing hit him! I missed. It landed at his feet and was broke. You know all he said was "way to go, you broke it", he picked it up and took it to his room to fix so mom and dad wouldn't find out. And you no what? He never touched us again! We handled him without dad.
We never knew what made his anger issues. 5 kids, all raised with the same parents, same set of rules and 1 had issues. Your mom can't handle your brother most likely, doesn't know what to do. Your dad most likely is working a lot of hours and not even at home when this stuff happens. Thats how it was at our house. My dad would never tolerate my brothers hitting us girls.
My parents tried so hard to find ways to get through to my brother. One day the chief of police came to visit my dad, asked if he could be like a big brother to him. Take him to work out with him. Small town, everyone knows everyone and this chief of police was great with kids. He knew my parents were having troubles with his anger issues (my brother had hit two teachers). Dad accepted the offer so several days a week my brother had to go lift weights with the chief of police. My brother made it through school without any more troubles. As an adult he ended up having to taking anger management, and now in his early 40's, he still has the tendency to fly off the handle, you can tell he has to work hard to not lose it, but its nothing like it once was.
Your brother has issues, you need to start talking to your parents about it. Don't aggravate him by smarting off to him, if he's like my brother was you will get a pounding. If your brother is refusing to go to school, is he mixed up in drugs? Does he have depression issues? You are there, none of us are able to really know what is going on. You say your dad has anger issues. My kids would have said the same thing about me. lol, I had rules I expected them to go by. I didn't beat my kids, I just made sure they knew that if mom says do the dishes, then do the dishes! Now that my youngest has kids, she has decided I wasnt that mean mother she use to think I was. My dad was strict. We knew you don't make dad mad. He wasnt abusive at all, but he made sure his 5 kids knew if he said knock it off, he means knock it off. You might talk to your mom, talk to your dad. Your brother need helps. DCFS arent the ones who will help him. He needs something to help him feel better about himself. Good luck Jess.
I had a hot headed brother. I couldn't tell you how many times I'd say something smart to him and he'd fly off the handle. Normally the fights would break out when dad wasn't home, one time he thought he'd beat me up with dad home, well dad pulled my brother off me and put the fear of God in him. I had smarted off to my brother thinking I was funny, he didnt find the humor in what I said! Mom would get so upset if she was home because she wouldn't know what to do. Everytime just about that my brother did this it was because I had purposely smarted off to him. I might have thought my smart remark was funny and he wouldn't. He use to be really bad towards my youngest sister. He seem to hate her. If I gave her permission to wear one of my shirts and he'd see her wearing it, he'd get in a fight with her demanding she leave my stuff alone. Instead of coming to me to ask me, he'd lay into her. I'd hear the yelling and her crying and go running to protect her because he'd be beating her up. The last one we had was bad. I had jumped in to protect my sister from him, he was beating the snot out of me. It was so bad he nearly knocked me out and would have had my older sister not jumped in to get him off of me. He'd start getting the best of her and I'd jump him to get him off of her, then she and my little sister would jump him to free me from him. So he ended up fighting 3 females that day, all while mom and dad were at work thinking all was well at home! The fight ended when I picked up the sweeper, called him a name, he looked at me and I gave it all I had with the intention of making sure that thing hit him! I missed. It landed at his feet and was broke. You know all he said was "way to go, you broke it", he picked it up and took it to his room to fix so mom and dad wouldn't find out. And you no what? He never touched us again! We handled him without dad.
We never knew what made his anger issues. 5 kids, all raised with the same parents, same set of rules and 1 had issues. Your mom can't handle your brother most likely, doesn't know what to do. Your dad most likely is working a lot of hours and not even at home when this stuff happens. Thats how it was at our house. My dad would never tolerate my brothers hitting us girls.
My parents tried so hard to find ways to get through to my brother. One day the chief of police came to visit my dad, asked if he could be like a big brother to him. Take him to work out with him. Small town, everyone knows everyone and this chief of police was great with kids. He knew my parents were having troubles with his anger issues (my brother had hit two teachers). Dad accepted the offer so several days a week my brother had to go lift weights with the chief of police. My brother made it through school without any more troubles. As an adult he ended up having to taking anger management, and now in his early 40's, he still has the tendency to fly off the handle, you can tell he has to work hard to not lose it, but its nothing like it once was.
Your brother has issues, you need to start talking to your parents about it. Don't aggravate him by smarting off to him, if he's like my brother was you will get a pounding. If your brother is refusing to go to school, is he mixed up in drugs? Does he have depression issues? You are there, none of us are able to really know what is going on. You say your dad has anger issues. My kids would have said the same thing about me. lol, I had rules I expected them to go by. I didn't beat my kids, I just made sure they knew that if mom says do the dishes, then do the dishes! Now that my youngest has kids, she has decided I wasnt that mean mother she use to think I was. My dad was strict. We knew you don't make dad mad. He wasnt abusive at all, but he made sure his 5 kids knew if he said knock it off, he means knock it off. You might talk to your mom, talk to your dad. Your brother need helps. DCFS arent the ones who will help him. He needs something to help him feel better about himself. Good luck Jess.
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OH MY GOD, I didn't realize I wrote a book! Sorry about that.
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I know he hangs out with the wrong people but I'm not sure if he does drugs... Not too sure about the depression either. well, see the reason I said my dad has anger issues is that we can say 2 words to eachother and he'll go off his rocker. He's fully out of control and that's why he ONLY hit me once ever and that was when I was 6 and refused to get in the shower because I wanted to take a bath in the tub.Your brother has issues, you need to start talking to your parents about it. Don't aggravate him by smarting off to him, if he's like my brother was you will get a pounding. If your brother is refusing to go to school, is he mixed up in drugs? Does he have depression issues? You are there, none of us are able to really know what is going on. You say your dad has anger issues. My kids would have said the same thing about me. lol, I had rules I expected them to go by. I didn't beat my kids, I just made sure they knew that if mom says do the dishes, then do the dishes! Now that my youngest has kids, she has decided I wasnt that mean mother she use to think I was. My dad was strict. We knew you don't make dad mad. He wasnt abusive at all, but he made sure his 5 kids knew if he said knock it off, he means knock it off. You might talk to your mom, talk to your dad. Your brother need helps. DCFS arent the ones who will help him. He needs something to help him feel better about himself. Good luck Jess.
Me and my mom do try to make Matt feel better about himself but he just does stuff to make it worse instead of better. And for the past few years in school it seems he's always getting racist teachers or just teachers who hate him 'cause he's a skater.
Thanks.
It's cool. lol.OH MY GOD, I didn't realize I wrote a book! Sorry about that.
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Re: Needing some help.(non-chow)
Jess I want to offer my cyber support to you! As a young adult/Mum I was unfortunate enough to be in a violent relationship. One day I had enough and sought help and I have never looked back even though it meant my baby no longer had a Daddy (Until I found her the wonderful man I am now with).
You have done the right thing and it must have been so hard for you to do it. Nobody male or female should be victims of violent relationship weather it's girlfriend/boyfriend/Mum/Dad/brother. If your parents couldn't see how bad your brother was behaving, they probably needed the shock of the authorities. Your brother has some issues that need to be dealt with.
Jess you need to feel proud that you stood up for yourself. Your Mum is probably ashamed and embarrassed about what has happened. I hope things start to get better for you real quick. have a Huge HUG (((((o)))))
You have done the right thing and it must have been so hard for you to do it. Nobody male or female should be victims of violent relationship weather it's girlfriend/boyfriend/Mum/Dad/brother. If your parents couldn't see how bad your brother was behaving, they probably needed the shock of the authorities. Your brother has some issues that need to be dealt with.
Jess you need to feel proud that you stood up for yourself. Your Mum is probably ashamed and embarrassed about what has happened. I hope things start to get better for you real quick. have a Huge HUG (((((o)))))
Thank you Sweatpea
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Thanks. It is hard but I was just so sick of being hurt physically and emotionally that I knew it needed to be done. Heck, I cried the whole time I spoke to the police...
There's one thing that has gotten good. My friends love Tippsy. Especially my friend, Nick, so I take her to hang out when I can. lol.
Jess
There's one thing that has gotten good. My friends love Tippsy. Especially my friend, Nick, so I take her to hang out when I can. lol.
Jess
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Update:
My mom finally talked with me. She told me that my brother was being put on probation and all sorts of other stuff. Of course that's meaning he's gonna be home a lot more. Oh well, I guess I'll just have to find places to spend my weekends but I think I can live with that for now at least. Well, now I have to go help paint...
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My mom finally talked with me. She told me that my brother was being put on probation and all sorts of other stuff. Of course that's meaning he's gonna be home a lot more. Oh well, I guess I'll just have to find places to spend my weekends but I think I can live with that for now at least. Well, now I have to go help paint...
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Aren't there any laws in the states re school attendance? In Canada school attendance is compulsory. It's illegal for a child between the ages of 6 and 16 not to be in school. Unless the child is sick or is being home schooled.
Jess can you suggest to your mom to get help for your brother? Send him to see a school councilor or a psychiatrist who deals with teens. If your parents cannot handle your brother at 15, what will happen when he's 17, or 18?
I wish you all the best, hang in there, don't take any crap from your brother, don't antagonize him as someone already suggested. I'm glad to hear you have good friends who support you emotionally.
My younger brother was a royal pain in the arse too when we were young. We don't associate much now, we do try to be polite to each other. We were a typical dysfunctional family way back then.
Jess can you suggest to your mom to get help for your brother? Send him to see a school councilor or a psychiatrist who deals with teens. If your parents cannot handle your brother at 15, what will happen when he's 17, or 18?
I wish you all the best, hang in there, don't take any crap from your brother, don't antagonize him as someone already suggested. I'm glad to hear you have good friends who support you emotionally.
My younger brother was a royal pain in the arse too when we were young. We don't associate much now, we do try to be polite to each other. We were a typical dysfunctional family way back then.
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It's the same here. He's supposed to be at school but I'm left home alone in the mornings to get him up and obviously he doesn't do much of the listening.Aren't there any laws in the states re school attendance? In Canada school attendance is compulsory. It's illegal for a child between the ages of 6 and 16 not to be in school. Unless the child is sick or is being home schooled.
It's been suggested to my mom that he see a psychologist but our insurance won't cover it. I honestly don't know what his future will be... He does so much stupid stuff that he'll probably end up in jail by the time he's 18... well, jouvie.Jess can you suggest to your mom to get help for your brother? Send him to see a school councilor or a psychiatrist who deals with teens. If your parents cannot handle your brother at 15, what will happen when he's 17, or 18?
Thanks. But I honestly don't antagonize him. He'll start at me with rude comments about the way I look or something I said and I'll tell him to leave me alone. Then that's when he physically attacks me.I wish you all the best, hang in there, don't take any crap from your brother, don't antagonize him as someone already suggested. I'm glad to hear you have good friends who support you emotionally.
I'm greatful for my friends everyday. From this website and the ones from school.
Jess
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